Affection and Boundaries in Parenting: An Ethical Analysis from a Family Education Perspective
(Kasih Sayang dan Batasan dalam Pengasuhan Anak: Analisis Etis dari Perspektif Pendidikan Keluarga)
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https://doi.org/10.12026/sym.v1i1.087Keywords:
Affection, Boundaries, Emotional Regulation, Family Education, ParentingAbstract
Parenting play an important role in shaping emotional regulation and character development in children. In everyday practice, affection is often understood as emotional support without clear boundaries, which can potentially hinder the development of children’s self-regulation. This article aims to analyze the relationship between affection and boundaries in child-rearing patterns from the perspective of parenting ethics and family education. The article was written using a conceptual-analytical approach, drawing on a review of scientific literature from the past five years and reflecting on professional practice in the field of child development services. The analysis results indicate that parenting styles emphasizing unconditional love without consistent boundaries tend to be associated with poor emotional regulation, self-control, and child responsibility. Conversely, integrating affection, structure, and ethical values into parenting supports more adaptive emotional development and prepares children to face social and educational demands.
Abstrak
Pola asuh orang tua memegang peran penting dalam pembentukan regulasi emosi dan pengembangan karakter anak. Dalam praktik sehari-hari, kasih sayang sering dipahami sebagai dukungan emosional tanpa disertai batasan yang jelas, sehingga berpotensi menghambat perkembangan regulasi diri anak. Artikel ini bertujuan menganalisis relasi antara kasih sayang dan batasan dalam pola asuh anak dari perspektif etika pengasuhan dan pendidikan keluarga. Penulisan artikel menggunakan pendekatan konseptual-analitis melalui kajian literatur ilmiah lima tahun terakhir serta refleksi praktik profesional di bidang layanan tumbuh kembang anak. Hasil analisis menunjukkan bahwa pola asuh yang menekankan kasih sayang tanpa batasan yang konsisten cenderung berkaitan dengan lemahnya regulasi emosi, kontrol diri, dan tanggung jawab anak. Sebaliknya, integrasi kasih sayang, struktur, dan nilai etis dalam pengasuhan mendukung perkembangan emosi yang lebih adaptif dan kesiapan anak menghadapi tuntutan sosial dan pendidikan.
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